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starting over after a successful L5 fussion need help with disability questions and domestic relations

Started by rayg2011 on 03/07/2012 5:44pm

well i had a successful L4 stablization and a L5 fusion. but i'm on health sustaning medication.
the big problem i have is i'm on a very low pain medicain that is stopping me from findind any gainful work.
i was even turned away from a temp agency. i called a law office and i was told by them i'm screwed.
do to the med i'm on plus the fact what they did to my back no one will hire me. if i'm lucky they said i might be able to go to school for a desk job. i have had a life of over the road driving and contruction cdl driver. this realy is all i know how to make a living. i have two girls to support from a failed first marrage. even domestics is given me a fight. they haven't stoppped my rears from the day my unemployment stopped to if and when i may return to work. i was told from the law office to talk to my surgan and explain all that is going on and see if he will back me up. then i have to file disability that same day to stop domestics from makeing things worse. has anyone been in my shoes. the surgery improved my quality of life but it also handycaped me in being able to get back to work. any help i would be very greatful. also i'm from the state of PA.

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Hi Ray,
Sorry.didn't finish that last comment before it got sent.What i wanted to say is thank you for all your kind and uplifting words.I too have a strong faith in God,and read His Word daily.Just yesterday i signed up with one of the best social security attorneys in all of LA,they took my case for the appeal,and after reading the whole thing agreed that i shouldn't have even been sitting in there office.Meaning,i should have won hands down !Makes me sick to think i worked my whole life taking care of others only to get turned down when i really need it the most.I will NOT give up,God is on my side,this i know.Could take another year or year and a half to hear back,we desperately need the back pay.Please pray ,as i will do for you.
Blessings,
Nurse Nancy

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All I can say is stick to your guns. I am 42 yrs old and suffered a back injury at work almost 8 yrs ago. I had a failed surgery 7 1/2 yrs ago. I was able to return to a desk job until 3 yrs ago when I lost my job due to worsening of my back. I filed for Social Security over 2 yrs ago and was denied, but through an attorney I have been fighting it. I have also been fighting the work comp insurance co for over 2 yrs for a fusion. My injury is at L5-S1 and I am crushing both sciatic nerves. I have days I cannot walk, but Social Security says I can work 2 hrs/day so they deny me. I have FINALLY been approved for surgery and am scheduled for April 24th. I keep hearing horror stories about how people after the surgery are unable to return to work, even with a reduction in pain. I have spent the past couple years working on my degree for a new job.....1. because I know I cannot go back to the type of work I have always done (healthcare) and 2. I have had NO income and relied on my fin aid from school to live. I am hoping this degree is not going to be a waste of my time.

Anyway.......I would talk to a lawyer that specializes in Social Security cases. Apply. You will likely have a fight on your hands, but stick to it. They have to pay back to the date you apply. It is tough when we are the sole providers for our families and an injury can turn it all upside down.

Good luck to you. I hope life gets easier for all of us.

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Hi spondy619,
Thanks,and yes can you email me info.?This week i decided to pull out from binder and binder,was very disappointed with the representation at the hearing,my husband took me down to a new law firm and we hired on with one of the best disability appeals lawyers in LA county,unfortunately it may now be another year to year and a half wait.....but what the heck what do i have to loose,already lost my career and life goes on anyway.I have two more possible surgeries ahead,living with the residual pain over the hardware in my back and constant burning pain in my neck is really wearing me down.One day at a time....oh my email is nancynurse4mission@yahoo.com.
Blessings everyone,
Nurse Nancy

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hi ray and all. I heard nurse nancey go dened. If i were her dont stop go check out another attorney. Ray do you exercise everyday or walk just curious if i just set and dont move much i get really stiff.

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Tramadol, Bone stims...
Tramadol worked like a charm, apart from the seizure. Bone growth stim... looked like smoke and mirrors to me but I wore it anyway. Don't know if it helped or not. I spose if I used my brain more than my brawn I wouldn't be in this state!
CLEAN HOUSE... I don't like cleaning house, but a clean house I like. Does W/Comp pay for housekeeping services? ( I wish ).
While I'm off reinventing myself for the umptheenth time, I want u all to know that your posts are like arms wrapping around me in understanding...Priceless.
Arms open,
me.

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NANCY,,,,,i've been praying for you. i haven't been on because i'm nose diving. very very depressed. each day seems to run into the next. i don't sleep well. yes i know it could talk up to two years to get disability. some get it quicker then others. i have faith you'll get it. not sure i'm going to like being on the anti depressants. was on it in 2000. gave me bad head aches. i keep thinking of stupid things. most of the time the same things over and over. looseing my desire to do things. guess i'm just tired. i'll be praying for you.
ray

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LARRY,,,, yes you will get very stiff. then stiff and sore. like a bad tooth ache. your muscles are over top that hardware. not much room there now. make sure you do the chair stretch as many times a day you can. and yes i walk about 2 miles a day. do my stretches morning and night. and i walk my huskey and my girlfriends huskey/lab mix ounce a day. and do house cleaning as often as i can. i try to use the treadmill when i can but i like walking outside better. i just can't twist real good. i put front breaks on the girfriends car last week and i hurt for a day. hard being on your knees and in the fender well and twisting to see and tighten bolts. yes she gave me hell for doing it too. was nice to feel useful even if it was only for a hour. you just try and take it easy. heal right.
talk to you all soon.
i have to get my head together first.
ray

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Ray,
Give the anti depressants a chance to work. I broke down and started taking Effexor a couple of months ago because I too was losing the battle, (I didn't even want to be around me). This is so difficult, I used to work and work hard. My body in motion 8 hrs a day. Now about the most I do is go from the recliner to the bed. It SUCKS. I understand losing the desire to do just about anything because everything hurts. If I catch myself in an "UP" moment and decide to actually do something, then I also have to knowingly take more meds in order to do it. Then of course afterwards the regret sinks in when I hurt even worse...round and round we go. This is something only those who live with chronic pain would understand.
Just hang in there. You're not alone.
It will be O.K. in the end.
If it's not O.K., it's not the end.

Just keep trying to remember who you are. That person is still in there.
You are NOT the pain. You are NOT the injury.
Please keep us posted,
Me

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Nancy,
sorry to hear you were denied. Reading your posts gives me a heads up on what I can expect when I go through the process. My lawyer "implied" to wait till i'd met max med rec before I filed, so thats what I'll do. I was given a 20% whole body impaiment in 2007, ( after the 2 level lumbar fusion).
I don't even know what's wrong with my thoracic-cervical spine, I just know there is something very, very wrong. ( This injury was due to the snowblower) in Feb 2011.
Please keep me up-dated.
P.S. How do you keep from sinking into the sea of dipair? Any advice is welcome.
Me.

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Hello all.
Well I was declared permanently disabled by the doctor. Seem my bone growth is slow.
Also learned new info on just what they did when I had my surgery. They changed plans do to my back being so bad. I talked to the family doctor the pain clinic doctor and the surgan. They are all backing me.
Broke my heart. I cried my eyes out when he told me. I was hoping to be able to go back to a normal life. Now I have to start the prosses of filling for disability. I've been exstreamly depressed. Doc has me on 50mg of Zoloft now. Starting to help. So at a loss for thought or words. I know the good lord is speaking to me. Two people in the same day told me I have to make a new start starting from today. Was so werd to hear it. I just wish I knew where to being. Also going to see a doctor to talk about this all. Hoping it helps. Hard getting out of bed now. Seems like what's the purpose any more. I hope everyone is doing ok. I keep everyone in my prayers. Hope to talk to you all soon.
Ray

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Sorry to hear things are getting rough for you Ray. Having the doctors on your side for disability should help. I had 2 interviews for a job and now nothing. I was denied ss not sure if I'm gonna get a lawyer or not. Can't do anything till I receive my settlement from my injury with my work which has been approved by judge so 4 weeks. I'm just concerned about finding a job with my restricions. Sucks, praying for you Ray, keep your head up!

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BREADGIRL
Thanks for the prayers. I hope you find something you can do. Doing my best.
You should get a attorney an go for the disability. Yes you'll have the settlement but if you find your having problems getting work. The disability will come in handy. I'm just so tired. I'll be filling tomorrow.
I just have to find reasons to get up anymore. But tomorrow will be a better day.
I hope things go well for you.
Ray

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well the zoloft is starting to help.
but what i learned is. if anyone that has a fusion or some kind of surgery to there back. even if all goes well. unless you are already working and the company is nice enougfh to you to keep you on. your just screwed.in short if you have surgery that limits what you can do. it will be almost impossable to return to work. i started to file for disability today. lol what a joke. but life goes on.
god bless everyone on here.
i pray everyone will find a way to be pain free or as close to it as one can.
i thank you all for your input and for the friendship.
ray

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I am so sorry that you are unable to return to work. I am planning on having a fusion this year. Once I get off nicotine. I am currently doing e-cigs to cut down the nicotine. But I want to know did your fusion not take?

Also did the doctors say you can't return to any type of work? Is there any other type of career that interest you? I understand you have only been in your profession and your current experience is in your career field.. But maybe you have another passion? Or go back to school and get training in another field?

It sounds like being on disability and not working for the rest of your life is going to keep you sad. I know if I couldn't work again I would be freaking out. I also would be looking at everything out there that I may enjoy doing. Just a thought. It is possible to make lemonade out of this.

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Ray,
My heart goes out to you. I know what you mean about staying in bed. It doesn't help though, it's all still waiting for you when wake up. You hit the nail on the head when you said you had to find reasons to get out of bed. Ray, that is KEY. If you can sit, lay, float in water, walk, anything that get's you outside the house really does help fight depression. I have to take double meds in order to "do" anything productive, but for me, it's worth it. I will sit here and rot otherwise. Everyone needs life outside of pain. Please Ray, don't give up. I know it's all consuming at times, and when I say, "I know," I honestly know.
We all have our individual battles, some worse than others, the one thing we share is, WE CAN ABSOLUTELY NOT GIVE UP! ( Be glad I don't live next door, I might be tempted to drag you out to sit under the trees)!
There's so much more I want to say but typing isn't my thing. Please keep posting. You and others here are on my mind.
me.

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Jacquelyn-Leigh
well as i was told i'm most likly fused from the glue?
but the bone growth around it all is slow to say the least.
he said there is still a chance it could close up. but thats there way of saying its as good as its going to get. he said theres nothing more they can do. so who knows maybe in a year it will fully close up. i asked about the bone growth stimulature he said its only used right after surgery. i guess he felt i would be ok with out it. as far as jobs........heavy lifting and abuse to the body is all i've ever done. driveing truck 14 hours a day takes a toll. pluss loadind and unloading. mostly construction work. i'm not much of a people person so retail and desk jobs wouldn't work. can't go back to school because of no cash. first marrage did that in. i'm living on 175.00 a month right now. just can't do it any more. most of all my two girls are the reason i went threw all this. i made between 10 and 14 a hour. when i drove over the road i made 23 a hour. thats good for around here. its what i need to survive and to pay support. can't do it on minium wage.so i'm left with no choice. it takes two now days to live a nice life. even if ones on minimum wage.meaning the other is the bread winner. even thow my girlfriend is a god sent. i have to do this as thow i'm single. not much more i can do.

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Upanddown
I know I do. Just bad days. Thank you for taking time to encourage me.
I truly now know what it's like to be in these shoes. I at times to cant exspress all I want to say by typing. But we will all get threw this. Time is all we have now.
Thank you again. God bless you.
I'll be on soon.
Just very tired.
Ray

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Ray,
same boat here with being locked outta the job market. I can't afford school and even if I could, I just don't retain information like I used to. Don't know if it's age or the meds...
The Zoloft is probably making you tired, well that and the emotional let down from what the Dr's told you. I'm sure you know all this already so I wont keep harping on.
It's good you're girlfriend is so understanding, I don't know what I would do if I didn't have the support of my family. What do people do who have no-one? As you said, you just can't live without an income. Makes me wonder if some of those homeless people are injured workers without loved ones. A horrible thought... Now I am rambling.
Keep in touch and keep your chin up,
me. :)

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upsanddown and Ray, were all in the same boat. With my restrictions I don't know who is going to hire me. I thinking about going back to school but at 43 sort of sucks. Hard enough for people who are qualified to get a job, but when you have our problems its 100x harder. I look everyday and apply had a few interviews but have heard nothing back yet. Trying to stay positive but it does get hard. Prayers to you both

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Beadgirl,
I haven't even looked for a job yet. I just quit P.T. a week and a half ago coz it wasn't doing any good. I also started having sciatica pain, even though the P.T. wasn't for the lower back.
Like you said, it's hard enough for young healthy people to find jobs these days, let alone someone our age, ( I'm 49) with so many restrictions). I'd like the Dr. to tell me what it is I can do 8hrs a day.
Thankyou for your prayers. Your words mean a lot to me.
me.

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happy easter everyone.
well filed for disability on the 5th. what a pain in the rump just to file on line. still have a few papers to sign and mail in before it all gets underway. all the doctors are behind me so i hope it helps. struggled allot today. went to church tonight with my girlfriend and the boys. was tough setting and standing but got threw it. back is very sore today for some reason. talked to my girls tonight. my oldest is having a hard time. just wish they weren't so far away. my girls were coloring easter eggs when i called. wish i could have been there. i felt so bad. can't even get them anything for easter. my mom isn't going to make it. she has to meet a heart surgan on the 16th. she can't talk by phone no more because she runs out of breath. she has a valve that is stuck open in her heart. and she don't think she can go threw the surgery. shes very weak and i don't think she will make it threw it. lost my dad to cancer april 8th 2008. this is going to be a bad month. i realy wish i had something good to talk about. seems like every day problems just won't get better. i'm learning to cope with it but it feels like the world is coming to a end. its the only way i can discribe it. i did smile though today. i was watching my girlfriend while we were watching a movie with the boys. she looked over at me and smiled. she's so beautiful inside and out. i was thinking just how much she has delt with having me in her life. and it made me smile because i know she truly is a kind caring person. i'm very greatful to her. i don't get allot of oppertunities to talk to people so i write on here. i hope everyone is well. and i hope you all enjoy your holiday. god bless you all. i keep you all in my prayers.
ray.

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Ray, Happy Easter to you! You have alot to look forward to, try and remember that. I know it seems like everything is falling apart, but it WILL get better, just going to be a long road. I try everyday to see some improvement or do something I was unable to do. Being positive is all you can do right now and as hard as it may seem, try and do it. Honestly for me the more bummed I get the more my back hurts. I think when your mentally down it really affects you physically! Take care and know I'm praying for you!

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breadgirl
i thank you for the support. it helps. today is just a little better then yestarday.
thank you for the prayers. i hope you are doing ok as well.
ray.

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Breadgirl,

I am going to be 43 in July. Cannot work at all, which sucks that I have all the proof from my drs yet still get denied Social Security, but went back to school. I am taking online classes so I can pretty much do them at my pace and only take 1-2 classes at a time. Sadly I know I have to repay student loans, but without them I would be on the street. With this economy my son hasnt been able to find a job since he came home from Iraq, so all we have is the small amount he gets for drill pay each month. The money he made over there kept us afloat for a little while.

We all need to keep our chins up. One day it will all work out. I applied for my SS in Jan 2010 and got denied, appeal after appeal, we are FINALLY going to court June 8th. What sucks is the hearing is an hour away from me and it will be 6 weeks post-op from my fusion. Could postpone it, but at what cost? So.....I shall be there.

Hope everyone keeps their chins up and just keep fighting. If you dont fight for yourself, noone will!! It has taken me 2 years and 4 months of fighting just to get my surgery approved. It was a Work Comp case and the insurance company has fought it tooth and nail. I have jumped through their "hoops of pain" as I call them. I have done ALL of the alternatives to surgery with no luck and LOTS of pains at times, seen 7 different drs for "2nd opinions"....everyone saying surgery is my only option. It all works out in time we just have to stick to it and fight. It is frustrating, depressing, painful, and you can throw in alot of other emotions, but you cannot give up!!! They bank on people giving up, when you give up they win. Good luck to eveyone

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Kat,
Totally agree with you. I was also work comp case and fought for almost year then had my surgery. Was injured end of april 2010, went thru epidural shots, PT, joint blocks and discogram. Finally comp had me see one of there dr. who said yes she needs surgery and yes my job caused my injury. Had my surgery March 2011 and after a year finally getting better. Looooong road, but glad its over. I am receiving settlement from my work next week and I just applied for unemployment. They let me go due to not being able to meet the restrictions or accomodate me. My attorney says I can file for unemployment so i am. I was denied ss and will probably talk with an attorney this coming week to see if they think I can fight it. Good luck to you keep me updated on how you are

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I was injured May 2004, had a discectomy/laminectomy in Sep 2004. I have continued to have problems and been seeing my pain specialist since Oct 2005. I have been through RFA's (3 of them til the insurance stopped them), MULTIPLE injections that no longer work, pain pump, spinal cord stim trial, they even sent me to a "rehab camp" it was a month of strenuous rehab (PT, OT, Vocational, and Psych), ending in only making me worse. My injusy is L5-S1 and I have been crushing both sciatic nerves for about 3 years now, since their rehab camp. My left leg is numb from the knee down. We asked for the fusion 4 years ago and when it was denied I did not fight it because I still had options and know from working with Neurologists and Neurosurgeons it is best to put off surgery as long as ppossible. I continued working, losing multiple jobs and damaging my resume due to my back. I have not worked since Oct 2009, I have many days that just moving from my bed causes me excrutiating pain. I have had many drs that have said I should have had this surgery done years ago and just sued them for what it cost me. I do not have health insurance, one of the many downfalls of not working, nor do I have the money to pay for it out of pocket. It is an agonizing and exhausting fight, but I recommend people fight. If you dont fight for your surgery or SS noone else will. I just hope I get approved for my SS finally when I go to court in June. Will keep you all posted on my surgery. I am getting nervous......it NEEDS to be done, but I hate surgery. I have my pre-op appt tomorrow so maybe I will be able to settle my nerves a little after that appt.

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hello all.....hope you all are doing as well as you can. well since last i have applied for the disability. now just have to wait. had a problem with the state over my medicare and cash assistance. got that fixed. tried to cut grass a few days ago and laid me up for three days. the pain in my legs was like i never felt before. yes was my own fault i shouldn't have been doing yard work. also i checked my car out so i could get it inspected and did it again. to much. i'm doing ok today. just a little sore. i was so drained yesterday i slept from 330pm till 1030am today. was just so run down. the past few days have been peaceful. as in problem free days. course now i jinxed that by saying it.still having some problems sleeping threw the night. have tried not to talk to my family do to the fact they are all having problems too. times it drags me down with them when i talk to them. wish there was something i could do for them. but i can't. well i hope everyone is doing well. i'm always here if anyone wants to talk. god bless you all. keep you in my prayers.
ray

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Still here. Taking a day at a time.
Funny not knowing where tomorrow will take me.
Lord bless those in need.
Ray.

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HI all,
Well this just SUCKS. SUCKS. SUCKS. I can't move my head, left arm is killing me and my back is one big spasm. Lawyer is "out of town." and I don't have a Dr. ( at least not through w/comp.). So I'm back taking mind numbing pain killers that don't kill the pain, just my brain. I'm so frustrated with this. Sorry for venting...It's vent or cry and I'm hurting too much to cry.
Please let me know how each of u r doing. It helps knowing i'm not alone. :)

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Well after waiting three months.
I was denied SSDI.
guess the pricks are going to make me jump threw hoops.
Sorry all just pist like the rest of us.
I haven't been on in a while.
But still hanging in there.
Good days and bad.
Have to go for tests tomorrow for my lungs.
Asthma has been bad an I think I have newmonya.
Doctor treated me twice for it an it keeps coming back.
Life is grand.
Hope you all are well and having better days since last we talked.
Bless you all.
Ray.

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