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someone should start a Spine Universe date site

Started by Joeybobbie on 03/16/2011 5:25pm

Seems like a lot of us have been left on our own because our used to be spouses don't want to be married to someone with a disability. At least we would understand each others problems and have someone to talk too and share what life we have been stuck with together. All this is lonely stuff when you get dumped for no good reason other than something you can't help.

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I totally agree! I have done web searches for dating sites for people with chronic pain issues. However, I couldn't find anything. It's very difficult to try to date a "normal" person. I always feel as if I'm not good enough for them. Then, when they find out, they usually disappear :(

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I have fibromyalgia along with a messed up neck, I think the "dont EVER touch me" thing wouldnt go over good with many males. I for one am glad I dont have a signifcant other to have to deal with, this chronic pain is enough for me. But I understand your post. Life is hard enough to get through alone as a healthy person, 1000 times harder if you suffer each day. I hope you find what you are looking for, best of luck to you

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There are a few hotties around here. I could picture it now.
Honey, hand me the remote:
Ok, Ohhh, ouch, auuuhhh, Oh man, that hurts, ahhhh, oops, moan, crack, snap, ouch, pop, crunch,

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lol...well, the remote could be handled in shifts! lol :D
and we definitely have to have a sense of humor!

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Joebobbie,

Lord I know how you feel, it seems impossible to maintain a relationship with someone that is not "broken". I'm trying, as we speak- and not getting very far at it. And this is someone that knows me, better than anyone (someone that has been in my life for the better part of 23 years)- but when your just not the person you used to be (inside) - they just don't understand how you can possibly hurt 24/7. I'm sure you would give anything to be the person you were before the pain- but we won't be able to have that life again- unfortunately. There is someone out there for all of us, I'm not giving that dream up just yet :). But staying with someone that only shoots our self-esteem down is no good for us, and will only cause us much more pain from all the stress from the negativity. Just having this site, has been a plus for me- I'm tired of explaining how I feel to everyone- when they don't even listen in the first place. Even if we could start our own chat site- an instant messaging place would be great- this is nice, but you have to wait for a response from people- sometimes we need to talk to someone asap- Anyone have any ideas on how to get something like that up and running ???? I'm sure you would have a positive response.

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That sounds like a great idea Joeybob! It's not as though we have any control over our respective condition(s)! I was diagnosed with AS, DDD, and other various and sundry auto-immune conditions. At the time of diagnosis, I was married with two small children-now I'm divorced with two children. Most people cannot comprehend the idea of chronic pain. When I date, i never bring up my conditions for fear that the guy will say "peace out..."

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I think in your local area you should do a support group for Chronic pain. Meeting and dating would go with that group. I run a WLS support group, there are a lot of lonely people out there. Great Idea If you can one going. There are no support groups in Syracuse for chronic pain or Back surgery. If I ever get better. I will put one together, Groups are a real lot of work with no pay. Great Idea Good Luck Sam
YOU GUYs ARE really funny

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Hey Phil
That was really funny, just do like me and watch whatever channel it happens to be on. I wish I knew where fonda lived.. Are you anywhere near Texas.

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I wish I knew how. same here on the family. Had a family of me my wife and 3 kids. Now its just me going through a divorce and no one even wants me to visit the house. They don't like putting up with a person whos so screwed up crippled even though I got crippled building the house they are living in. A date site among people with crippling conditions would be great. Weve lost alot but not our ability to love.

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I totally agree with you. I have DDD & had surgery in2007. They replaced my L4 disk & fused my L4&L5 disks and I have had nothing but problems since. It is lonely and unless you been through it you cannot understand. How am I suppose to daate like this? I cannot do anything that I used to. I miss going riding motorcycles, or out in a boat or camping,exercizing, hiking,,,,,,,,,,,, It sucks. Who ever is going to want someone who cannot do normal things, and what about sex???? I am divorced ,46 yrs old & I feel like I will be alone . I miss sex something terrible, the problem is finding a partner who can understaaaand my limitations,
I have started looking for dating sites for disabled. If you know of any let me know,this is frustrating in more ways than one for sure,
lildreemer2002@yahoo.com

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JB,
Sorry, I didn't see your post asking me about TV. I must have been away for a few days and the there were a lot of new posts. I usually just watch Discovery, SciFi, or History Channel so the choice is easy. By the way, I'm here in Northwest NJ.

Hang in there buddy. I read all your posts and can relate to both the emotional and physical pain. I lost my wife to a heart attack in August 2010 after 26 years of marriage. Being alone simply sucks.

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Hey everyone,
One thing i know for sure is we need to have more ongoing humorous posts like this one.The old Nancy used to laugh a lot, chronic pain has a way of causing you to become a serious person.
Holy moly,my life has drastically change,but one thing i know for sure is i can still have inner joy and peace,and that i know i have and no one can steal that away.
Anyhow i am now 3 weeks post lumbar fusion,today i felt like a mac truck hit me,although most of my days have been getting better.I will pray for all of my friends on here,and for you single men and woman on here i pray God will bring a compatible mate in to your life who understands,I know i have a husband who is always there for me,although he did go through all of this same stuff,had 2 back fusions and is pretty good now.
Take Care and blessings to all,
Nurse Nancy

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Thanks from all of us Nancy,
My wife found God later on during our marriage and I sensed a calm in her and I wanted to be a part of it. The last 5 years we were together were the best times of our times and we finally became soulmates. Just holding her hand in the car was my most favorite thing to do, and fall asleep with my arms around her. My bible reading and involvement in our (my) small Christian church is probably the only thing keeping me together at this point. My heart and soul will always belong to her and I would feel like I would be betraying her to look for new relationship. I will simply close myself off to others and let the world pass me by until we can be together again. I'm blessed with a good job, big house and all the material things most strive for but few receive and they mean nothing if you can't share them with someone you love. I guess the bright side is each cat has his own private bedroom,

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Hay is there anyone out there. thats what I have Been Say To myself! and there you guys are. I have alot to say but just want no one to feel just sorry for me. I have been looking for veitnam vets with the pain Igo there. I was married for 26 yrs. but it was not the phisc. pain that drove us apart. IFthere is any ladys around St. Petersburg Fl that would like to Chat. Get Back To Me. that does not mean I will not chat with anyone. Joebobbie I think you started a site!!!!!!!

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Iam sorry about the spelling. I owned my own trucking business with 13 tractor and 27 trailers 9owner operators. I sold out and then work for Greyhound for 5 yrs. A little dumb but not stupid.

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Iam sorry about the spelling. I owned my own trucking business with 13 tractor and 27 trailers 9owner operators. I sold out and then work for Greyhound for 5 yrs. A little dumb but not stupid.

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