Having some depression and crying spells and it's been 15 days post op....why am I so upset? Every little thing bothers me...I don't know...???
It is normal to be depressed after surgery. It will get better I promise. I am 8 weeks out, I'm better, but I still have days/times. I was told one time that we get depressed after surgery because it's a major life change/event/ Now I am in the beginning of the insomnia stage, I certainly don't like it.
Will be thinking about you!
Hope you are managing ok. It is a long road to feeling better isn't it! Kinda hit me today. I am feeling so guilty about not being able to do anything around the house. My husband took two weeks off to be home with me and honestly I thought the second week ( this upcoming week) he would be able to chill a little because I would require less from him and be more able. It is not looking that way. Pain is still dependent on medication by the the time 4 hours is up. I am so used to not need edging help with anything even the past year while I was in pain I pushed myself to still do laundry and shop a little and cook a little and pick up and dust. Now he has to do it all. He has not uttered a single complaint and is loving and compassionate every time I need some help. He has really taken the " in sickness and health" vow seriously. A nd that was 36 yrs ago! I love him so much for being so willing to help.
I feel sorry for anyone who has to go this alone. I honestly don't know how they can manage.
Hang in there! One day at a time is all we have to get through. Xo
Hi Guy`s, I cared for ppl and always tried to help everyone that I could. There were very few that even came and seen me in the hospital in my times of need over the first six months. Really only this young man that lives 1/2 mile down the road.he always helps me do the stuff that should do my self but can`t. All i do with him is he comes over ane eats my leftovers every night. Now I help no one at all. Lorine my story is you really learn who your friends are my wife wasn`t one. As I found out I had 11 ppl on my list.Now days they do the fusions better in six months you should be in great shape.You must have some thing you want to do. Just think about that all the time you will be fine.Don`t go to a doctor, they will tell you when you start crying thk about Flowers in a park. That`s what they said to me when I went to one for pain . That was be4 my fusion when I couldn`t sit I was standing. I hope I helped a little. Sam
Thank you Sam....:)
Mornings are extremely hard....In alot of pain.This morning wasn't too bad...not sure if it was because I took my pain med very late last nite and woke up only 6hrs later....not alot of time in between meds....or because I didn't do too much at all yesterday....It's so hard...can't sit for long....stand for long or lay in bed for long....bent down while sitting to grab a a piece of bread my baby nice dropped on the floor...before the dog got it....It didn't hurt but I didn't even realize that I did it..how would we know if we pop a screw or something? And another thing....when i sit in the recliner to watch t.v...all i do is fall asleep...is that normal?..so tired all the time....:(
Hi Lorine ,
Everything you mention has been the same for me. I was just laying in the recliner with an ice wrap around my foot due to horrible nerve pain. Waiting for pain meds to kick in, trying to dose off and all of a sudden out of nowhere I began crying, then sobbing! I don't know why either. But I suspect the pain meds play a role in it. I had my post op today and the nurse told me to stop pushing to hard, that recovery isn't a race. Funny she said that because that's kinda what I have been feeling. She said walk as much as you can.. Even if it is 500 ft . She told me I shouldn't feel like I have to lay down and rest after I walk and if I do then I have done to much. Helpful info to me because I didn't really have any guidelines.
On the pain meds Lorine , if you are in so much pain then I still suggest you set an alarm and take a pain pill about 2 hours before you usually get up. I know you said before you would rather sleep and not bother with the pill. The thing is if you are beginning each morning in a lot of pain it seems to me the rest of the day must be a struggle too. I set the alarm every 4 hours at this point. If I go longer I still have way too much pain and it takes longer to settle it. Most of the time I fall right back to sleep, but if I don't no biggie because I know I will take a nap sometime in the morning. Managing your pain is so very important. Hope you are having a good morning : )
Good morning Trish....How are you feeling today...?
The last 2 mornings for me have been ok....went out to K-mart today...There is life outside my house..and it was a beautiful day...I It's not easy but I did it..Getting in and out of the car is getting a bit better too.
Still tired and its been 3 weeks post op..I wonder how long post op does everyone start feeling better..?
I did notice that i am still extremely pale...especially my hands..they look like they belong on a dead person...lol..I call them my dead hands....Hubby says call the doctor but I'm thinking maybe I am just low on iron and bought some iron pills today..My sis in law says eat a steak...not in the mood for steak..Haven't been in the mood to eat anyway and the weight loss would help too..lol..But anyway..How have your days been going.?..:)
So glad to hear you are doing ok! Except for your dead hands! I have dead feet! Having been having good days and then a horrible day. But I keep pushing on. Having real bad nerve pain in the bottom of my foot that has been making walking near impossible. My legs and feet have been swelling horribly and nurse at doc office told me to stop taking neuron tin ( gabapentin) as that may be causing it. So I am weening of that. I too was hoping I would lose weight and I don't give a flip about eating either. Instead of losing I gained like 7 lbs! Just what I don't need. I think it is from all the swelling. Anyway I go to bed every night believing I will wake up better. And everyday for the most part I am a little bit better.
Be careful taking iron pills. They cause constipation big time! I'm still needing Percocet 10/325 every 4 hours. If I sleep past the 4 hour mark I am miserable. I hope maybe next week I will be able to cut back.
Didn't it feel great to get out to Kmart? I went to target and felt like a kid in a candy shop. Who knew a trip to target would make me so freakin happy! LOL, stay in touch cause I love to hear where you are in recovery! Seems like everyone else deserted us on here.... Take car and well talk soon,
Lorine and Trish
I am still here! I promise it does get better, I will be 9 weeks out tomorrow, I still hurt, but i am able to venture out more, Saturday was my biggest day yet. My husband took me any where I wanted to go just to get me out of the house. I so enjoyed it. I so overdid it also!.In the long run it worked wonders for me. I feel like I am human again! I am so hoping to get out some this weekend as well.
I think and pray for y'all! Hugs to you both!
So glad to hear you are doing well! I'm 2.5 weeks out and doing well except for the pain in my foot.
Stay in touch!
Lorine, Trish, Dana,
I'm about 8 weeks post op. ( C, 6-7. A.C.D.F. w/instrumentation.) I had an A.L.I.F. of L,4-S,1 in 2007.
I've been reading your posts but didn't really have anything to add. Looks like you're doing well.
I'm pretty depressed this time round. I'm just not getting the relief I thought I would, so I'm stuck taking boatloads of meds. I have a feeling I might have some permanent nerve damage. :(
Sorry to be a downer, I just wanted to let you know I'm lurking in the background here. :) Hope you all have a nice restful evening,
Thanks for letting us know how u r doing! Sorry about the nerve pain. I am hoping mine isn't permanent ! Not sure when I will know that but at this point being optimistic. I'm hoping if the nerve pain is still hanging on by the time my next visit comes around the doc will be able to she'd some light. Next appt is early December. Christmas shopping for sure will be online this year!! Take car Janet and feel better xo
Good morning everyone....Hope everyone is feeling a bit better this morning..!
Trish...My feet were swelling alot too for the first few weeks....but once I started moving around more the swelling got better....sometimes when you sit too long in one position I noticed that was happening..but once I started even moving my legs even in the recliner it helped....I still take my gabepentin...I still have alot of electricity in my legs...especially at night and especially after I do more walking during the day..sometimes it's sooooo bad...it gets scarey....I just hope eventually it goes away....Doc said my nerves were so compressed....worse than he thought....I hope it's not permanent...Everything still hurts..even my butt cheeks..lol...sooo much sitting...Being a hairdresser for a living..I stood up most of my life so my butt is not used to it..lol....And on incision...omg...sooo itchy....the staples were taken out last week and the doc put tape on it and said they should fall off by themselves....I hope the itchiness stops when they all come off....drives me crazy.....In the mornings I still need my walker ...without it I wouldn't be able to make it to the bathroom....lol....and the commode...I need that in the morning too.....after lying in bed..I am extremely stiff....I did have a bad night last night....couldn't get comfortable at all...no matter what I did and i was hot and cold all night.....ughhhh......but since yesterday all I did was lay around...because of the day before..( my big outing at k-mart ) today I am gonna try to be a lil productive and try and straighten up a lil bit...My sis in law was with me since sunday night but went home wednesday afternoon....and an hour after she left..my house fell apart....not too bad...but I am gonna try to tidy up today...Thank god for her...she is a big help and she is hurting too...who isn't hurting these days I guess....I know soo many people in pain these days...I wonder what the problem really is..?..So anyway ..hang in there everyone and hope everyone has a good day today...:).
I am glad I found this site since y'all know EXACTLY what we are going through! One week out from C6 removal and fusion. I wasn't in a lot of pain before - constant soreness with numbness of the hands and walking/balance issues. Woke up to pain and muscle spasms across my neck and shoulders - switched pain meds three days out and that has helped but they put me in zombie land and every little thing bothers me emotionally. As much as I love my house the idea of not being able to jump in the car and go frightens me. Plus - since I do outside sales as a living, I am on unpaid leave from work. It's natural to be moody - I tore into my husband just for changing channels on the TV. I like what one post said - recovery is not a race - I am by nature competitive so I am trying to "unhook". I have this whole list of things I have wanted to do but never had the time - well, time is all I have now.....
One day at a time, and if that doesn't work, I just go from med time to med time....
Yes I like that... Med time to med time cause that is the time span that defines us thes days. Hang in and stay in touch with us!
Hang in there...lil by lil..day by day...things get better...I am glad I found this site too...alot of information and alot of nice people....And yes...we have a lot of time on our hands...try not to rush it..I am trying to do that myself....wondering if each little bend or twist I do is hurting me...Having new pains and wondering if it is normal or did i do it to myself....And the meds....you are right..zombie it is....but thank god for them...Hang in there Barbara....hopefully it gets better and better...fingers crossed...:)
Hi gang, hope everyone is having a decent day! Still I am having this nerve pain and now completely off gabapentin. The only thing it did for me was cause the severe swelling in my legs and feet. Percocet lessens the nerve pain but never gets it completely gone. Lorine! I know what you mean about the itching! OMG! It makes me crazy.. Well maybe that's not what makes me crazy but it sure contributes to it! LOL Staples came out on Tues and thank goodness it was all healed. I have been in the shower every morning just letting hot water run on my suture lines. Oddly enough my side incision doesn't bother me at all, but I can feel a big hard lump of scar tissue. My back had 9 incisions from an inch to two inches long and they are very itchy. Could be from sweating wearing the brace. I wear a camisole underneath it but still gets warm under there. I have the same pain as you in my " cheeks" not sure if that is muscle or nerve pain. I live in Florida and the weather has been fantastic...cool breeze but warm sun. Every afternoon after I take a walk I sit in the sun and it feels so healing. With I had a lounge chair that was comfy enough I would take a nap! I think next week I'm going to really be hit with reality because my husband returns to work. Not sure what I will do with myself then and no driving!!!! Ugh! Doctors office told me no driving while on pain meds...if I was to get in an accident I would be charged with a DUI . I DIDN'T KNOW THAT! I have been on pain meds for a year and was driving. I might have to move to Colorado or Washington and dump the pain pills and just smoke pot! Haven't done that since the early 70's.
I was just beginning to get my little business up and going when I fell and all this sh* t started. I am a photographer and was focusing on newborn through 1 yr and families. Not sure what I will be able to do when I am finally healed and if this nerve pain goes away. That scares me because we are really missing the second income. I can't focus on all of that right now because it makes me depressed, but it's kind of khard not to. Oh well, this is a new chapter in my life and I can't foresee the future.
On a good not I lost 4 of the 7 lbs I gained since surgery! I really think it must have been swelling.
Stay in touch girls because it is so nice to share as we all go down this dusty path!
Well Guy`s I will start a new post on how many people drive on pain meds. I take 90mgs Oxy Contin every 12 hrs and drive a over the road Truck. When you get stop by Police you can`t tell at all. Just don`t say your taking anythg. What I was thinking for you guys that need your meds in the middle of the night,ask your surgeons for a Oxycontin pill that will last you all night . It can be the same dose as your peracet. Much better for your body without the tylanal. I`m very sorry all the pain you guy`s are in.Sam
Hi Lorine, Trish and all the others here,
I just read all the posts and I"m glad to hear things are getting slowly bit by bit better for you after your surgeries. its been 6 years since my last surgery but as I am reading I can relate like it was yesterday lol. just a couple things you might find helpful, Trish you mentioned your Dr. wants to take you off gabapentan? (sorry I'm the worst speller lol) I take topiramate which I think does the same as your gabapentan but......one of the side effects is weight loss!! it really does curb your appetite. the other thing was I have done insurance sales, underwriting,claims etc for years until my accident and I have never heard of being charged with a dui from being on pain meds that are prescribed to you. (I am in Canada though so don't know the rules my be different in the states) all the best to you ladies just recovering from surgery my heart goes out to you. sorry I couldn't be more help, take care and remember these days of healing are so important don't over do it you don't want to jepordize your healing process.God bless Kim
Good morning all,
Weird but this morning I woke up crying my heart out. Yesterday I changed my med schedule in hopes that I could increase time in between doses. I gues that was a big mistake because I had so much pain through the night and after I got up. Walking with my walker like an 80 year old lady! Crying and thinking what if this is as good as its gonna get?? Oh just crying like a big baby. I took Percocet 2 tabs and after about 45 mins pain was manageable and I felt better. It just hits sometimes so hard. So hard to know what the future will be for me.
Deep breath..... It will get better.
OK so I am 9 days out of surgery - things are feeling better although the numbness is still the same in my right hand - so annoying when I type - can't always tell when I press the keys.
1) how long did it take for anyone to get feeling back?
2) I didn't really get a lot of guidelines about wearing my collar - at all times except when sitting quietly is all it says in my post-op instructions. Do y'all wear yours to sleep? I have been, but can't seem to find a pillow that works well.
Still dealing with mild depression - I am SO a task oriented person and work best when my to do list is long - having nothing but time is such an unfamiliar concept - I am tempted to do nothing at all but then get mad at myself for not accomplishing anything!
morning Lorine,,I got ur message on Trishes blog asking me for help,,,lets start w pain meds,,,1. he has u on a very small dose, docs r being very stingy due to FDA crap going on w narcs,,U should B alowwed 6 per day at 7,5/325,, dont let them take them away,if ur getting them from surgeon then thats why,they dont usually prescribe after post op,,U should B going to Pain Management, call him this week tell him how bad ur feeling and get that referral for pain manangemnt, along w pain meds U should B on muscle relaxant, N anti inflammatory... 2. the mornings R always the worst, its been almost 2 yrs for me and mornings still R, its bcause the body has been laying in position for so long its all stiff,,b4 my feet even hit the ground I take my 15mg oxys n 2 tylenol and have to wait an hour in chair w my coffe b4 I can start my day.. 3. as far as u being pale that can b a number of things,yes lack of iron could B one, it can b the percs cause ur not use to them,,increase ur vit c,multi vitamin, iron is binding so im not going to recommend that unless u have a blood draw an find out ur levels.a sign of bleeding internally would b black tary stools,,( lets not hope 4 that ).eat plenty of protein for muscle repair.. and like I said its time for pain managemnt,,surgeons dont prescribe after post op,,thats where all our complaints come in to place,, we all find it hard to get a pain management doc to prescribe pain meds,,keep me informed,,,,RENE :)
I have had too many surgeries! There is Always some depression after major surgery---especially if you lost any blood. It s normal. Part of the body's defense system. Tell your family doctor you need something for a short term treatment, unless you normally cry a lot.