Does anyone have the same problem as me with Family member's. By Family member's I mean my Wife, Daughter and son. My daughter is 21, my son is 16, my wife of 23 yr.s is 54. I am 50. I have 4 Fusions in my neck from 2 surgery's, and 2 in my lower back from the front and back. I get treated and told I don't pay any bills, I am on Social Security making 21,000 a yr. 1500 to 1700 a month is taken out of my acct every month to help with bills. My wife makes 149,000.00 a yr. She has half of her salary going into a 401K with company matching. I can't get any help on anything as far as trying to keep up with the house. I always hear how I don't pay any bill's, and go take a pill like you usally do and lay on the recliner as always. I don't know what hurts worse, all my pain or the depression of everyone treating me like a looser because "I don't do anything", I have tried to explain to my kids that I am paying 3/4 of what I get to bills, Mom is only putting half. I don't have enough left over for any savings cause I try to keep the gas tanks full, Always try and give the kids some money for bowling or something fun. whatever. I am being made to feel like a Bad Dad and a looser. No one here shows me any respect. I don't get it. I don't know what they all are talking about when I am not here but evidently it's not good. I have explained I have to take something for pain because it is soooo excrutiating, I should also add that I have torn tendons and hone fragments in my left knee and haven't had a MRI on the left ankle yet. I just can't handle another surgery right now. The pain is really bad in my neck and lower back anyway and not my leg. I just had a pain pump put in on 12-23-2010, It is helping but still even with it I am in constant bad pain 24hrs a day. I can only sleep if I am awake so long that I pretty much just pass out. Just was wondering how many other people are going through this kind of dissrespect, isolation, you can do anything you just don't want to from thier familys. I have asked them all numerous times to look up Chronic pain so maybe they will understand but they don't. This is not only making my pain worse but my ego is shot and my depression is really bad. I am already on Lexapro so I don't know what to do.